HOW TO DEAL WITH CONTROLLING PEOPLE

                               Do you think you're in an unhealthy relationship?Controlling parents/partner/friends/siblings?Do you feel like you have little or no control over your life?Does someone else in your life make all the decisions for you?
These are some of the obvious reasons of having a controlling person in your life.Are you waiting for someone or something to come and save you from this bad bad world?Well,hate to break it to you,but superheroes don't exist! So,how do you deal with it?There are some ways i can think of ..Now,how do i know about this again ? Yeah you might want to ask me that..When it comes to being controlled or manipulated ,i have a life-long experience of being controlled and manipulated by someone.So here's how you can deal with this..

NEVER GIVE UP.EVER! :Sometimes when you are pushed too much, it can feel very hard that you want to give up.But never give up.Fight back(i don't mean the literal fighting) because it's your life and you can only make it right.

BE CONFIDENT OF YOURSELF:You are an individual who can make your own decisions.You need to believe in yourself before you prove this to others.Be yourself.Be confident in yourself and try to have a positive way of thinking.

YOU NEED TO TALK:Crying,running or hiding away from your problems is not going to help.You have to talk with the person about the issue you have.You never know,the person might not even know that they are controlling you.Speak up.Tell them how you feel.

LEARN TO SAY NO:You don't have to agree with someone on everything.You have you own mind and therefore,your own thoughts and views.Don't be afraid to be who you are.If you're being forced to do something against your will,say no.

TAKE ADVISE:Talk about this to an adult you are comfortable with.They might have solutions or suggestions to give.

BE STRONG:Try to motivate yourself even if you don't have any support from anyone.Do things you love.Try to  make yourself happy.Be positive-minded.Don't lose hope.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” 
                                               - Oscar Wilde

RELIGION:THE BEST BUSINESS IN INDIA

I honestly believe that people earn a lot in the name of religion in our country.Religion plays a very central role in Indian society and culture.You must have seen how most of the famous temples and historic places in India have been commercialised that it feels like a hotel or a tourist spot more than a temple.

People(especially tourists) are also lied to, robbed and cheated in the name of God or saints.Innumerable things are sold outside temples and people with beliefs are easily convinced to buy them.

A big example to this perspective will be the bollywood film 'Oh My God' which featured  Akshay Kumar and Paresh Rawal in the lead roles .Kanji bhai (Paresh Rawal) is an atheist who doesn't believe that God exists but makes his living by selling godly idols. One night his shop gets destroyed by an earthquake that the insurance people term as an 'act of god'. Left with no other option he files a case against God leaving godmen sitting on the opposite side to defend God. 
  Roles like Mithun Chakraborthy's made it more funny.I would say it's a must watch for  Indians.

I'd like to quote Kabir Das

Translation

Where do you search me? I am with you
Not in pilgrimage, nor in icons, Neither in solitudes
Not in temples, nor in mosques Neither in Kaba nor in Kailash
I am with you o man, I am with you
Not in prayers, nor in meditation, Neither in fasting
Not in yogic exercises, Neither in renunciation
Neither in the vital force nor in the body, Not even in the ethereal space
Neither in the womb of Nature, Not in the breath of the breath
Seek earnestly and discover, In but a moment of search
Says Kabir, Listen with care, Where your faith is, I am there.

MANNERS??WHO?

                                I have often felt(almost everyday) that most of the Indians hardly have any good manners.I  really doubt that they learnt the basic manners that were taught in kindergarten and school.I'm talking about manners as basic as Thank you and Please!

I'm too fed up putting up with the pushing in ques,the never-ending staring ,bosses asking personal questions,people who are not your friends interfering with personal stuff,I could just keep writing more.

These are some BASIC MANNERS everyone needs to know about.It's never too late to learn some of these..Use please or excuse me when you ask or interrupt something,don't interrupt people in a conversation,do not comment on someone who's not your friend,do not interfere in personal matters unless you are wanted to,don't be unnecessarily mean or cruel to anyone,don't urinate or spit in public places,that's why you have public toilets.

NEVER SAY NEVER,BUT PLEASE SAY THANK YOU:Seriously guys,when someone does something for you,the least you can do is thank them!

WHY MEN DOMINATE WOMEN

Even if they belonged to higher social classes, most women throughout history have been slaves. Until recent times,they could not own property or inherit land and wealth, and were frequently treated as mere property themselves.Many Indian women hardly have any role at all in determining their own lives, they are seen as nothing more than a commodity, property of the males of the family, and as owners, the men have the right to make decisions for them.So,why do you think this happens?Why do men try to control women mentally or physically?There are some of reasons which i can think of..

INDIAN CULTURE:Indian culture is known all over the world for its rich heritage and huge tradition.It's one of the world's oldest culture  (about 5000 years old).Sure! But the same culture practices traditions like Child marriage,sati, jauhar,purdah and devadasi among some communities.Practices like Child marriage and purdah is still practiced in India.Women in many villages are still asked to abort or kill girl children .Traditional Hindu beliefs hold that girls should be brought up to be good daughters and later obedient wives.When a country has practices like sati and child marriage in the culture from years and years,I think it's going to be difficult to completely change the mindset of Indians towards women.

MEN ARE TAUGHT TO DOMINATE: I don't think it's entirely their fault.I think that's how they were brought up.Family and friends influence our thinking a lot.We are taught(most of us)that women should listen to men no matter what.If men are brought up in a good family environment with good values, there is less chance of him not respecting women and treating them as equals.In most of the countries, a wife or a girlfriend is treated as an equal,a partner.Why is the father always the head of the house? The mother also puts in equal effort in managing the family.But in India,mostly they are treated like men's possession or property.If men are taught to control and make decisions for every women in their lives(mother,sister,girlfriend,wife and friends), I don't think its completely their mistake.


WOMEN ARE OKAY WITH BEING DOMINATED: There's something in which i really believe in."You can only be controlled by someone when you let them control you."Unless,of course,you don't have a choice.But somehow,there's always a choice.One thing i have noticed is women in our country know that they are and will always be controlled by men and they are okay with it! I don't know how they do this and I don't see why they put up with this!Why don't we fight back?How can we be okay with someone else controlling our lives,making life decisions for us?If you're going through a similar problem,deal with it.Unless you do something about it,nothing's going to change.No one will save you unless you make attempts to save yourself. 


"Respect the girls and women in your home, there is nothing bigger than that. I want every young man to remember that you will be blessed only if you respect your parents, care for them and look upon girls in your family and outside with respect."

                                                                                                       -SHAHRUKH KHAN

WHERE IS UNITY IN DIVERSITY?

We all know that India is surely a diverse country.But is there unity in diversity?Not really!

There is an immense difference between most cultures in India - one state will have a completely different language, culture, facial features, and in some cases religion to the next .

My question is why can't people respect any caste or religion apart from their's?I don't see how people can discriminate with castes or religious practises.We are all human beings by nature.Our country itself is divided into 28 states. Isn't that enough? Why do we need to divide it anyfurther?

It is understandable if you believe in your God or religion.You can believe in whatever seems truthful to you.But you should also try to understand that just like you, everyone has their own beliefs and practices.If you cannot respect others' believes and practices,how can you expect your believes to be respected by others?Why can't we respect their freedom to believe in whatever they like to ?If you can't respect others' freedom,then i don't think you are capable of demanding your freedom and rights.Besides,you are also wasting a lot of time and energy by all that negative thinking.

                            Another Hindu-Muslim fight.



"Let and let live!" Is that so hard to do?

DO WE DESERVE TO COMPLAIN?

Hello everyone! I will be writing about the issues most of the Indians face ..Before i write any further i would like to  make one thing clear that everything i write are based on my personal views.I don't want to judge anything/anyone and i'm completely okay if any reader has a different opinion about my posts.

                        Do we deserve to complain?

When you dicuss the issues of India or Indians i'm sure you and everyone around you will have a never-ending list of complaints to give.Poverty,Politians,Corruption,Lack of Education,Income inequalities and what not!
But why do we have so many complaints?Is it because it's easy to complain and put the blame on someone else?But do we really deserve to complain?Do we do everything in our power to "develop" this country?

One thing we should remember is that rights come with responsibilities.How many of us try to stay "united" as a nation?How many of us respect all religions and languages?How many of us care to preserve our natural resources and environment?How many of us pay our taxes regularly?Everyone wants a clean nation.But how many of us have the basic decency to spit and urinate in public toilets and throw garbage in the dustbin?Well, if we were , i'm sure our country will be in a much better position right now.

                    The "holy" river Ganges by the time it reaches and crosses major cities.

A Hindu woman devotee takes a holy dip in the polluted Sangam, confluence of three rivers, the Ganga, the Yamuna and mythical Saraswati, in the northern Indian city of Allahabad.

                     Garbage dumping ground near Jadavpur Police Station, Kolkata.

Calling our planet as "Mother Earth" wouldn't be enough.We need to treat it that way.We need to stop dirtying the environment.Everyone needs to stop spitting, urinating and throwing waste around and that will be the basic step we take towards a clean environment.If we learn to respect all religions,languages,castes and social positions, that will be the first step we would take towards unity.If all of us do all our responsibilities and pay our taxes, we then can question and blame the government as much as we want.I don't think that we can develop a country without developing our habits and practices towards it.How can we question about someone's responsibilities when we are not fulfilling ours?You always have to give something to get something.There's no joojoo around it.

"Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

                                        -Mahatma Gandhi